What to do when we got proposed unexpectedly

I am surely not as lucky as many of my friends who receive proposals to be their boyfriends. Yes, I am very much jealous. But what interest me is how the proposed person reacts to such un-cunningly-planned proposals.

It often when A developed a volcano-erupting-crushes on B. And A simply tells B that she like him. Out of the blue, point blank. You see, B and A were classmates. Both were hardworking, mission minded and from a spiritual sense, they are God-fearing. But A just don’t usually talk to B. However B’s personality is admirable, charming and handsome. He carries himself well. That just melts A’s hearts. When B speaks, A goes bonkers. So rather than keeping to herself and suffers silently, A decided to just tell B that she loves him.

If you were B, and you don’t like A, (or perhaps, you don’t see her ‘in that way’), how would you react?

1) Don’t give any answer? Acting as if you got an absence seizure?

2) A big, blunt but clear NO! and hope that A don’t jump from the top of ASHA building.

3) Or just say yes... and being that MR nice guy but secretly hated A. And run in to the risk of playing with A’s heart? God forbid.

4) But most of the case is, avoiding that person, disconnecting and terminating all friendship. Being overly suspicious when A is being nice. Stop talking to A and not allowing friendship to develop at all!

There is no easy answer for it.

How can we react to such away:

1) To minimize hurt and embarrassment, even though is inevitable.

2) Maintaining pre-existing friendship and allow it to develop as normal and closer friends instead of cutting off and avoiding her.

3) And at the same time being completely honest with her and ourselves?

If think, firstly, we have to understand that it is completely NORMAL to develop crushes and like someone. In fact, it is OKAY to be crazy and super desperate. To like and to be liked is part of how human related to each other.

With that in mind, I guess we need to know that, someone will invariably likes you or develops chronic crushes on you. Even though we are aware or not.

The only different is that the person (you may not like) is heroic enough to gather all her guts and just confesses her feelings towards you. In fact, one needs to risk her ego, being disappointed and shame to just confess. That takes an entire length of the guts. That is why I always admire people who make the first move and confess their feelings.

Yes, she may be a little too brash and a little not in her right mind, but isn’t that normal when we are crazy at somebody?

I think mature reaction to all this is, to acknowledge her feeling towards you and tell her that it is completely normal to have such feelings. And thank her for being honest to you. That will probably minimise her embarrassment. Tell her she has a lot of potential and talented. And reaffirm that she has been a good friend. But be completely honest with her that you didn’t see her “that way” and she will be her friends always.

Not sure if these suggestions will work. Didn’t try it out myself though. Or did I even have the chance to try it out? :)